Judge Not, That You Be Not Judged

Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment that you pronounce you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, "Let me take the speck out of your eye," when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.



Matthew 7.1-5
Any guesses as to what this post is about? Ha ha. I think it's time we have a serious talk ladies. I've gone back and forth on whether or not to write this post with full knowledge of its controversies and major backlash it could receive. But, this is MY blog and I am entitles to state my views, opinions, and feelings. So with that said, Here it goes.I have been struggling lately with judgment of others. I have VERY strong opinions that judging someone is anything BUT Christ-like and our Heavenly Father is the ONLY one with the power to do so. Now, let me also state that I, like everyone else in this world, am not perfect by any means. I too have passed judgment on others. But being a convert in my religion I have always tried to see both sides of the fence. You are probably wondering where all this is coming from. Right? This weekend I decided to have one of those "Slumber Parties". You know the type...if not look it up if you are curious :).  In the process of inviting people to this party I have learned these things

• I am trashy
• I am perverted
• I have no morals

Pretty awesome right? These are a few of the things that were said about me. This is why we are having this talk ladies, It seriously broke my heart. Don't these people know me? I knew this party would not be for everyone and I am COMPLETELY fine with that. My thought process was that I think the sex stores are not for me and I feel like a lunatic whenever I've been in one. So how nice would it be to be able to be in the comfort of your own home to browse those types of items, learn about them, and and shop without feeling all awkward and not having to see porn videos everywhere you look? I guess I thought most people would feel that way. Well, you know what happens when you assume. Now heres what I don't understand. Is it that hard to politely decline, say its not for you, and let it be? Why go as far as put the person down and pass judgement on them? I would rather go to one of these slumber parties then lay my head down at night knowing I have judged someone. But my feelings have been hurt and I feel like I need to defend myself. When you pass judgement on someone do you know the whole situation? Do you know what is going on behind the scenes? If not then maybe you should either A. Get to know the person better or B. Don't Judge Them

This goes way beyond some stupid party. I just want to inspire those of you who need to to work on this. I know that even with me writing this I have learned more about myself and the way I treat people. It is so sad that we as woman are always looking to bond at someone else's expense. I'll never understand that. Maybe I feel so strongly on this because I've been on the short end of those conversation most of my life. When I chose to have God be a part of my life and be baptized into the LDS church and get married in the temple, I had people saying "I can't believe SHE is getting married in the temple". Instead of "WOW, I am so happy and proud of her for wanting to better herself and choose a life with God by her side." And that makes it hard to have sympathy.Thankfully I have enough wonderful people in my life to reassure the person I truly am. So while my feelings were hurt they were right there to make me remember the love and confidence I should have for myself. I am one lucky girl.Ok. Enough of my pitty party . People may do things that you do not understand or agree with. Instead of judging them, love them. You don't have to love what they do but love them as a brother, or sister. As long as what they are doing isn't illegal, nine times out of ten they are a good person. And if you let that one thing you disagree with interfere with how you feel about them you could be missing out on a wonderful person in your life, friend, or maybe even family member. As woman we are naturally the motherly and nurturing type. We should be giving confidence boosters and always looking for the good in others. Teaching our children not to judge and love all with no judgement. Just like Christ. 

 No matter their race, faith, political views, and certain opinions. I promise if you remove the close mindedness and negativity, you will live a much happier life and will be surprised by the blessings you will receive. Sometimes those that are hardest to love, are the ones who need it the most.It's like going back to when we were five. IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL.